Zodwa Wabantu is unbothered by claims that her marriage will be cursed because she is going against tradition
The dancer popped the question to her younger boyfriend earlier this month.
Zodwa presented her fiancé Ntobeko Linda with a special-cut rose gold band which cost R5 217, and forked out a further R47 826 for a custom-made rose gold morganite and diamond ring set for herself.
If that proposal isn’t unconventional enough, the entertainer revealed that Ntobeko will be taking her surname when they marry!
The move challenges the traditional perception of gender roles, with some going so far as to say she would be cursed by her ancestors for not following tradition
Cultural expert Jabulani Maphalala weighed in on the matter. He told the Daily Sun that traditionally, the man is the one who pays lobola, and the woman takes his surname.
He described Zodwa’s approach as “shocking”, but said it was the couple’s decision. Jabulani, however, also warned that there could be consequences.
“I’m afraid this will affect their love, though. I think their ancestors will turn their backs on them and cause trouble in their marriage,” he told the publication.
Zodwa laughed off concerns that her marriage would be cursed
While she respects people’s right to practice their culture and rituals, she is not a believer.
“If a person is dead they’re dead and have no power over a living person. My mum died and she can never bring luck to me. I don’t even use muthi. I pray and I do things my way. No tradition or ancestor can harm our love,” she told the Daily Sun.
Speaking to TshisaLIVE, Zodwa says she won’t let anyone stop her from doing whatever she wants when it comes to her relationship.
“I am going to pay lobola no matter what anybody says and it will be done by women. You will see on my show, women will go on my behalf.
“Because when you think about it, it was men who told us that honour is reserved for men and we just went with it like it’s the gospel. I don’t think it is, we are taking back our power.”